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Advice, girl power, Love, Relationships, Self-love, smart women, Strong Women, Thoughts, Women
Perhaps you have read the title and thought “I don’t really see the difference…” Well, my friend, look again… and now let’s talk!
Being single, and having many friends who are also single, I started to realize there are two basic categories within “singleness”: that of girls who treat it as any other passing phase in life, aka, the single girls. And then there are those who treat the situation as such a problem, such an abhorrent state, that it becomes an actual monster, aka, the Single state.
I’ve noticed that girls in the Single category not only tend to define their lives based on who they are with – and their “failure” on the fact that they have no one at the moment – but they also seem to lose their identity and judgment when alone. They seem so blinded by the fact that they are alone, that they automatically start losing confidence, self-love, self-respect… The Single girls tend to put so much weight on “having someone” that they lose sight of who they actually are – man or no man. Girls in this category usually end up with complete wrong guys, because anything, or anyone, is better than being alone, right? WRONG!! Stop selling yourself short because of misguided desperation.
The single girls, on the other hand, realize that being single means nothing else than the fact that AT THAT MOMENT in life they have no official partner. They do not start degrading themselves or thinking their lives are pointless because of it. Instead, they use the single phase as a learning opportunity. To learn who they really are, the things they like, the ones they love, and more importantly, the things they do not like. They use the single phase to rethink themselves as partners when in a relationship, and to be better prepared for the future ones.
I’m not here to preach that doing this or that is the way to go. What I offer is a window through which you, my single friend, can look into your situation and see a different color in the sky. Stop obsessing over your relationship status and start focusing on knowing yourself better. When you discover who you truly are when you are single, you will realize that you can choose better partners, and build stronger relationships.